Define YOUR success
The first step is to really consider what ‘success’ looks like to you. Success and perfection mean completely different things to different people. My definition of success is being able to have a good work-life balance, getting outdoors and feeling like I’m helping people in my day job. I haven’t quite worked out what ‘helping people’ looks like, but I know it’s a part of my success definition. Don’t forget success definitions will also evolve over time. Here’s some other people’s definitions of success.
Restrict social media use & never compare yourself to others
I don’t avoid social media, instead, I try to limit my use when I’m having a particularly bad week. It’s very easy to believe that everyone on social media is perfect, always smiling with six-packs (that probably took A LOT of work). Remember, social media is not real life. Limit your social media use if you’re feeling sh*tty and if you have to try to only follow people’s accounts that make you feel good!
Be kind (that includes to yourself)
We would never talk to a friend or probably even an enemy the way we talk to ourselves. It’s really upsetting to hear people say horrible things about themselves. Break the cycle and remember that you are your best friend. Be kind to yourself. If you’ve failed at something, eaten a whole pack of cookies (no judgment) or embarrassed yourself horribly – don’t worry about it. If it makes anyone feel better, I once shit myself in public when I was really sick. Nothing can be worse than that.
Set realistic & mindful goals
If you’re a goal setter, set realistic goals. After setting each goal, ask yourself WHY you are setting them. If you’re setting a goal to lose weight because you saw a photo of Kylie Jenner, step the f away (& follow I weigh). If you want to set a goal to get up earlier in the morning to catch more of the sun, then we have a winner. If you fail that goal, don’t worry about it and try again. Here’s a guide to setting realistic goals.
Acceptance is key
The thing that I’ve grappled with the most is just accepting that sometimes things go wrong and plans change. Accepting that success takes a lot of time and hard work in most cases is a tough pill to swallow. Keep going to achieve the life you want, but also accept that things change with time and it’s ok to chill out.