Unfortunately, these self-destructive behaviors cannot be fixed by external things like getting a good job or by someone else paying you a compliment. When you are your own harshest critic, then the only person who can pull you back up again is – yep, you guessed it – yourself.
The new year is a perfect time to start practicing the act of building yourself up instead of tearing yourself down. As the previous year comes to a close, you may find that you are ready for a fresh start, a new year free from habits that prevent you from finding the success and happiness you deserve. As a Scorpio-moon who loves to reinvent herself, here are the three self-sabotaging habits I’m giving up in the new year.
1. THE SOCIAL MEDIA COMPARISON GAME
In the age of social media we are constantly exposed to the lives of others, but what we forget is that Instagram is just the highlight reel of someone else’s life, not the full picture. When we are shown curated feeds of our friends and role models jet-setting off to gorgeous destinations, toting the hottest new fashion trends, or zenning out with a luxurious spa day, we are simply seeing the parts of people’s lives that they feel excited to share.
Would you rather share a photo of yourself having a blast on vacation or one of you stressed out and un-showered in front of your laptop at 2 am? Yea, I would choose the vacation shot, too. It’s ok to display only the best parts of your life on social media, but don’t forget that’s what everyone else is doing, too! When we remember that everyone else has off days, we don’t feel so stressed about our own less-than-perfect moments.
One way to prevent yourself from playing the social media comparison game is to take a digital detox. Deleting the Instagram and Facebook apps off your phone for the first two weeks of the year is a great way to start fresh, without worrying about whether your new year is Insta-worthy or not. Or if you aren’t ready to quit cold-turkey, then using an app like SPACE (available on iPhone and Android) is a good start, helping you monitor and set limits on the amount of time you spend on social media.
Or just take Tina Fey’s advice!
“Do your thing and don’t care if they like it.” – Tina Fey, Bossypants